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3 steps to getting what you really really want


Tell me your deepest desires….

Have you ever wanted something to come into your life? Like really really bad?

One of the most well thought out quotes I’ve heard was by Regina Thomashauer (a.k.a. Mama Gena), who is founder of The School of Womanly Arts. She said in an interview with Marie Forleo*  that, ‘Desire is the connection to something greater than yourself.’

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*Marie Forleo has a Youtube channel where she shares how to create a live that you love! Her videos are super helpful that is also funny to watch!

When I heard that quote, it blew my mind away.

Because that’s all that our desires are. It’s a feeling, a connection, to something that we want. Yet sometimes, we get into this overcomplicated relationship with our desires that we block ourselves from receiving it.

Why we’re not getting what we want

Have you ever said to yourself or perhaps in a conversation with your best buds, ‘I want to travel to a place that I’ve never been to before. Like to go to Paris, sit outside the cafes, drink its coffee, and taste every single pastry and croissant I can get my hands on.’

But then. We begin thinking of the logistics, how much money it’s going to take, how much effort it is going to take, and then… there’s that whole speaking French thing. Then we shrug off the whole thing and say, ‘Nah, it’s too much things to handle. I’ll just go when I have the time and money.’

Instead of brimming with the excitement we initially started on when we stated our desires, we over-complicate our desires by thinking along the lines,’that-it’s-this-too-grand-of-a-big-too-big impossible-thing-that-we-can’t-have.’

Or we start thinking, ‘Nah, I don’t deserve the thing I want.’

Your desires has nothing to do with whether you deserve it or not. The Universe is indifferent. It will bring you what you believe you can get.

Or we might feel ashamed of what we want. Like something we want is illegal or ‘not right’ to want.

Those thoughts & feelings are pushing your desires away.

Ever since I heard what Mama Gena said about desires, I decided to rethink about my relationship with desires and simplify it. I came up with these 3 steps and I hope it helps you one step closer to getting what you want!

1. Start owning your desires. State it LOUD and CLEAR. 

What do you want? Don’t think about it too much. What do you really want for yourself, your career, your life? What do you want your life to look like in 2 years from now?

Usually the things we want is because it feels good to us. What feels good to you?

Write it down.
– I want a job that makes me feel excited waking up for.
– I want to get a dog. Preferably a cute huggable golden retriever.
– I want more money.

As you write it, do you feel or have any thoughts that are bubbling up that are pushing your desires away? These thoughts is what is causing the overcomplicated relationship with your desires and it’s pushing it away.

Instead, think of your desires like this:
Cassandra Bodzak, who is an amazing holistic lifestyle coach, said to think about what you want like placing an order from Amazon. You trust that what you want is on its way. 

Own what you want. It’s okay to want things, desiring something is a natural part of our growth in our journey.

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2. Break it down to small steps.

Once you’ve written your desires.

Break it down to small steps. Thinking of your desires can be overwhelming because it seems big. It’s okay to write that you want to go to Paris. Then ask yourself, what are the steps needed to get to Paris?

-Take French lessons, ask friends to come along with you, save up (how much? be specific), book plane tickets, book hotels, etc.

There is no such thing as a big thing. Everything is a series of small steps taken to get there.

3. Commit and set intentions. Then let it go.

I like writing down my desires in colorful sticky notes and then sticking it down everywhere that I see. Every time I see it, I visualize how it feels to actually receive what I want. If you want to go to Paris, picture it in your minds down to every single detail, on how it feels to be sipping that cup of espresso, eating that pastry, and seeing the Eiffel tower.

Commit to the step by step action plan you’ve made. Then, learn to let your desire go too. Don’t obsess over it, don’t obsess why it’s not happening fast enough. Do keep an open mind, see what opportunities comes up, trust that it will happen when the time is right.


I hope these 3 steps have helped you! We can have what we want, it’s a matter of clearing the way for our desires to come to us and trusting that it is on its way.

I would love to know, what are your desires? What do you want in life? What are you working towards? Do you have your success stories of when you wanted something and you got it? How did you go about getting it? Share with me in the comments below!

Much love,